So Dad has been settled into a new apartment on the locked memory unit on the 3rd floor. He has a very nice apt at the end of the hall with a big window looking out onto the front of the facility.

I really like their memory unit. It is a big cozier-smaller gathering places and many of them(sitting areas with tvs, dining areas, work areas with memory spaces scattered throughout. The memory spaces have items that the residents can touch and handle like a wedding display, an infant crib with infant clothes and dolls, a sewing machine, jewelry and jewelry boxes. Just items throughout the unit that help with memories. I have not looked at all of them yet. And there is a very nice outdoor patio with lots of tables and chairs and huge pots for gardening activities. Also hummingbird feeders.

So mom fluctuates back on forth on liking the idea of Dad having his own space and then crying hysterically because he has been taken from her. And she hates everyone in Maryland and she hates Maryland and she gets mad at me and then I am wonderful. She is a roller coaster of emotions. She calls everyday to see if I can get Dad back in the apt with her. Yesterday she called 20 times and left all kinds of messages. I try to explain to her that Dad needs to be there to get more help. And he really does. He has difficulty feeding himself-he needs set up(cut the food, serve the food). He looks so much better. They make sure he shaves everyday, showers, changes his clothes, toilets and changes his Depends. He just really needs more attention than mom was giving him or would allow. Sadly she just does not understand that he needs help. When he was in the apt with her, she would turn away the help and he would get agitated. Same like when they were living in the WB house.

So Mom felt that they should have stayed in Michigan and then she forgets. It is exhausting. Hopefully they will both settle down(although Dad has adjusted quite well to life on the 3rd floor). They just really want him to get used to the new staff and them to him, as well as a new schedule. So they really don't want mom taking him back into the 2nd floor apt. She still does not understand why he no longer has a bed in their apt. She does get lonely and very sad without him there(I think she needs an audience). I am hoping to keep them/her busy enough during the day with him that she does not obsess on him not being there. He is also staying awake more.

So today they were supposed to go swimming, but I could not get them a ride. They will continue to go to the Sr Center here in Ellicott City 1x/wk on Thursdays. The staff told me that mom agreed to attend a service project event at the Ronald Mcdonald house. I was doubtful. I arrived tonight to enjoy a Mother's DAy dinner with them on the memory unit. She had kidnapped DAd and was holed up in the 2nd floor apt(as was told to me by the staff). But by the time I arrived, mom and dad had gone down to the dining room for dinner. I coaxed them upstairs for the 3rd floor dinner. We had a wonderful meal-ham, chicken-mom's favorite even-fried chicken! Mac n cheese, carrots and green beans, salad and cake for dessert along with drinks. I got Dad a beer. Then we sat out on the patio a bit and I left them in front of one of the tvs. I was busy with rearranging Dad's clothes. I had bought him a bunch of new items since he actually gets his clothes changed more frequently, like socks and pjs,

And Tom wants to try and hook up some type of system to get them their own cable tv in Dad's apt so mom can hang out in his room and away from some of the other distracting residents(so they can have their own alone time). We have another tv for them, but you have to get another cable box. Tom is trying to avoid having to pay full price for another hook up.

So here are some photos from tonight and DAd's apt. Our family will also have Mother's Day brunch with them on Sunday. K-

Mother's Day dinner on memory unit. (I took mom to get a perm last weekend).

 They gave DAd a hospital bed in case he needs it and we moved his power recliner chair and dresser.

 Sitting area where we will put another tv and chairs. I already dropped off their wooden rocking chair.